Coming To Terms With A Different Vision Of Motherhood
When I was barely 28, I learned that an underlying health condition had essentially thrust me into menopause in my twenties.
When I was barely 28, I learned that an underlying health condition had essentially thrust me into menopause in my twenties.
I heard that you learned that you didn’t need your wings to be close to heaven. You just needed to find your voice.
My life moves rather fast. If I’m not careful, I could miss all the instances of love that are everywhere waiting for me to just notice.
The best defense lies not in keeping the so-called wrong people out, but in building confidence, purpose, love and kindness for the folks who are in whatever office group, family, neighborhood, city and country that you are in.
I wrote the following poem about four years ago to help me stop worrying about what my neighbors/friends/relatives/dentist or other writers thought about my writing style and ability.
Self-care isn’t a goal you strive for. And it’s not about becoming YOU Version 2.0. It’s about meeting yourself where you are with a soft and open heart. It’s believing “my ordinary self is enough.” It’s feeling safe enough to show up in the world 100% you and inherently giving others permission to do the same.
Growing up, our overachiever family placed a high value on competency. Often that translated into a critical mindset toward self and others, where we frequently saw the bad before the good.
You may need to consider taking steps towards emotional healing if you, like many do, tend to bottle up difficult emotions. Grief, sadness, anxiety, depression, addiction, unhealthy obsessions, anger. We hide them in the basement of our minds and continue living under the pretense that they are gone.
Stress can interfere with cognition, focus, problem-solving, memory and mood. When we reach the point of complete overwhelm we need to pause, breathe, get out of our heads and re-set.
By all counts and measures, feeling like a failure is a real thing. In an age fuelled by social media, with its filtered images and glamorous stories, our accomplishments can seem small in comparison, making it easy to feel like we’re falling behind.