New research points to an alarming yet obvious finding—our obsession with gadgets and tech is making our relationships shallower, and our love lives weak. Many people feel their lives depend on these devices for work, entertainment, and to stay in contact—but with these also comes the stress of constantly being bombarded with “noise,” always being available, and the destruction of the work-life balance. (Let’s not even get into the physical ailments that go hand-in-hand with our phones and computers!).
Look around the next time you’re in a restaurant. How many couples are giving each other their complete attention? How many are glued to their phones? Which couple are you?
It’s essential to understand the need to carve out gadget-free quality time to rescue modern-day relationships. Going on a couples retreat can replenish, rejuvenate, nurture, and reinforce the bonds of love with our partners.
Why do relationship doctors recommend we take a retreat with our partners a few times a year?
1. You get to know your partner on a much deeper level. Typically, your partner is someone with whom you run a household, raise a family, or spend time doing other things that are part of traditional relationship roles. Seldom do you witness who they are outside of these roles. When you step away from the day-to-day, including the constant contact with technology, you get to know each other at the soul level. As a result, you’ll connect stronger, experience deeper conversations, and refocus on the relationship and its importance.
2. Experience healthier and happier homes. Modern research shows that the variable “shared experiences during vacations” was positively associated with couples’ day-to-day functioning at home.” The study further points out that “Couples who engaged in higher levels of shared experiences during their vacations, such as effective communication, showing affection, or experiencing new things together, reported higher levels of couple flexibility and cohesion following their vacations.”
In fact, quality vacations can achieve much more than simply building happy homes. Multiple studies say, ‘sharing time together, including during vacation, may help partners strengthen their attachment; solve solvable problems; prevent divorce; and, eventually, generate higher levels of marital satisfaction.’
3. Variety is the spice of life.
Routine is good—and necessary—but so is a break from routine to maintain a balance in our relationships. Marriage and partnership are as much about shared responsibilities and enjoying routine tasks as they are about exploring and creating new experiences that fulfill our need for rest, rejuvenation, and romance!
4. Celebrating silence together.
How a couple handles the silence between them is the real test of the depth of the relationship. A good relationship rests on our ability to be together while giving each other space to go within and know ourselves in a meaningful way. Couple retreats offer an opportunity to enjoy silence together and bond at a deeper and more spiritual level. In addition, shared silences can help the trust between couples grow.
5. Share the “wows.” When you got married, you shared special vows. You can renew those vows and share wows more authentically when your mind and body are free of the stresses, worries, doubts, complaints, and emotional toxins. So often, when we go for a retreat by ourselves and come out feeling rejuvenated and cleansed, we’re unable to express the joy we feel in our hearts to our partners because there is a gap between what we are trying to communicate and the space they’re in. When you take a retreat as a couple, you share in the experience—much like enjoying a lovely violin concert together.
6. Building a better lifestyle—together. A couples retreat at the Art of Living Retreat Center is also an excellent opportunity to explore health and wellness practices together. For example, has your partner been talking ad nauseam about going vegetarian? Do you wish they’d come with you on a hike once in a while? Do you both feel like there is more to life than the 9-5 grind?
A couples retreat helps you both witness and feel the benefits of a different and/or improved lifestyle based on holistic Ayurveda-inspired detoxes, personalized diet, and spiritual practices meant just for you.
7. Much-needed contemplation. Contemplating our lives is a critical ingredient for changing behavior. In fact, people who have the ability or time to reflect on their actions and thought processes are better at navigating relationships. You want to be a partner who provides comfort and security. To be able to do that, you first need to be at peace with yourself. When you are calm and centered, you can create the same loving space for each other.
You will not be in the same mood or mind space every day. There are times when you will need to bear the weight of your partner’s emotions, and on other days, they will need to carry yours. Our retreats teach you meditation practices, interactive processes, and wisdom that prepares you to build strong emotional bonds. You’ll gain the spiritual bandwidth to get through the rough days and help your partnership thrive—all the joy, peace, and love that you deserve.