Sex often triggers what is best and worst in relationships. Swinging from the highs of passion to the lows of rejection, sex offers us all plenty to engage with and talk about in session. Yet, most therapists are not taught how to facilitate these intimate conversations and harness the power of sexual connection to help secure the couples’ attachment.
Therapists avoid talking about sex for fear of embarrassment, lack of assessment skills, and/or little confidence about what to do with sexual dysfunctions and disconnections. Though deeply important to their relationship, our clients, likewise, might avoid talking about sex for fear of being embarrassed, of being found incompetent or unattractive, and/or fear of having hopeless conflict. Even when couples have achieved a measure of secure emotional attachment in therapy, there is often still a need for direct work on their sexual relationship.
EFT trainer, George Faller, LMFT, and certified sex therapist, Laurie Watson, LMFT, teach skills to help you assess the negative emotional and sexual cycles for a more logical framework to help couples resolve their toxic cycles. You’ll
- Increase your knowledge of the sexual arousal cycles, how secure childhoods increases sexual capacity, and what blocks and triggers you are looking for when doing a sexual assessment
- Learn how to deescalate a desire discrepancy in a couple by harnessing the positive force of sexual pursuit and acknowledging and challenging the withdrawing partner’s difficulties
- Learn to notice and navigate your own reactions and emotions and become more comfortable with explicit sexual content from your couples.
- Practice creating bonding and vulnerability over arousal or orgasmic problems including simple sex therapy interventions to help.
- Identify the key assumptions of attachment theory as it applies to adult sexuality.
- Identify the assumptions, stages, and steps of EFT, as well as key change events.
- Describe key interventions that help clients to reprocess key emotional responses and reduce reactivity
- Discuss common therapeutic impasses in EFT with sexuality and how to address them and implement EFT interventions in clinical exercises and case examples.
- Name different models of sexual response.
- Apply techniques of sexual assessment in EFT treatment
- Explain each partner’s model of sexuality based on their background
- Identify negative cycle around sexual issues in Stage 1 of EFT
- Differentiate sexual concerns from attachment perspective
- Apply techniques to transform sexual dysfunction into deeper intimacy and closeness
- Utilize Stage 2 EFT interventions effectively around sexual issues to create more secure bond in couples that leads to greater sexual fulfillment.
- Integrate strategies of integrating sex therapy into EFT for couples
- Identify sexual concerns that require a referral to a specialist
The workshop will include lecture, video examples, and experiential exercises. You’ll take home tools you can immediately use in your practice and skills to find your own voice so that you can be the best possible therapist for your clients.
This program is open to anyone seeking a broader understanding of how to help their clients heal sexual dysfunction and disconnection.
GREAT SEX FOR COUPLES
Attachment Theory & Sex Therapy Training for Therapists
August 28-30, 2020
4:00 pm Check-in begins; Rooms are ready by 4:00 pm, but if you arrive early we will hold your luggage at Reception.
6:00–7:00 pm Dinner
7:00–7:20 pm Guest Orientation Session (Venue: Dining Hall)
7:30–9:30 am Breakfast
12:00–2:00 pm Lunch (included on your departure day)
6:00–7:30 pm Dinner
Room check-out is 11:00 am; luggage can be held at reception.
Your Program Session Times (subject to change)
7:30–9:00 pm Part 1 Integrating Attachment Theory & Sexuality
9:30–10:15 am Part 2 Sexual Arousal/Desire Cycles
10:15–10:30 am Break
10:30–11:00 am Part 3 Understanding Sexual Cycles of Interaction
11:00–11:45 pm Part 4 Sexual Assessment
11:45–12:00 pm Break
12:00–12:30 pm Film Sexual Assessment to Resolving Block & Exercise
12:30–2:00 pm Lunch
2:00–3:15 pm Going Deeper, Using Sexual Problems to Strengthen a Couple’s Emotional Bond
3:15–3:30 pm Break
3:30–4:45 pm Exercise to Resolve Sexual/Emotional Blocks
9:30–11:00 am Part 5 Dynamic Thinking for Five Common Sexual Dysfunctions
11:00–11:15 am Break
11:15–12:15 pm Part 6 Getting Comfortable with Sexuality both Professionally and Personally
For room reservations, spa retreats, and Art of Living Retreat Center (AOLRC) signature retreats, we have the following cancellation policy:
- Refunds are available (less a $50 processing fee) up to eight days before your program or stay.
- Nonrefundable credit toward a future AOLRC program or stay (less a $50 processing fee) is available if you give notice between seven and one day(s) before your program or stay. Credit may be applied to any AOLRC program or stay for one year following date of issue.
- No credit or refund is available if you cancel on the arrival day, if you do not show up, or if you leave an event early for any reason. No refund will be available if you attend a program and are dissatisfied with its presentation or content. AOLRC reserves the right to cancel a program at any time. If AOLRC cancels a program, you will receive a full refund. Some programs may have special cancellation policies; see individual workshop descriptions. For all other retreats, please be sure to check the registration page specific to that retreat.
To encourage a healthy environment we ask that guest to not consume alcohol or meat in our public spaces, however, guests may enjoy these items in their rooms.
Our property is always smoke-free.
Yes, we ask that guests with food allergies simply inform us so we can communicate those needs to our chef. Typically, we label potential allergens such as gluten, dairy, and nuts.
George R. Faller, MS, LMFT, is a husband, father, therapist, educator, speaker, author and global leader in helping people reconnect and strengthen their relationships.
He is a certified Trainer/Supervisor/Therapist in Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy (EFT) and founder of the New York Center for Emotionally Focused Therapy, where he serves as President. George is the director of training at the Greenwich Center for Hope & Renewal in Connecticut and is on the Board of the Porter Cason Institute at Tulane University in New Orleans. He is a Supervisor with the American Association for Marriage & Family Therapy and teaches classes at the Ackerman Institute for the Family in Manhattan. He is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist currently practicing in Connecticut and New York.
George brings a unique and varied experience to his practice. Whether he is providing marriage therapy to Wall Street executives, leading a conference for the United States Military, or equipping therapists from around the globe, his ability to inspire is far-reaching. George is also committed to bringing EFT to underprivileged populations and pushing the leading edge of effective therapy. georgefaller.com
Laurie Watson, a certified sex therapist, helps couples keep it hot as co-host with George Faller with their popular podcast, Foreplay Radio–Couples and Sex Therapy.
Laurie has been practicing sex therapy from attachment theory for more than 20 years (and marriage therapy for 30 years!) using her expertise in intimacy and healthy relationships to help couples improve both sexually and relationally. She’s an author of Wanting Sex Again: How to Rediscover Desire and Heal a Sexless Marriage and blogs for both Psychology Today and WebMD, with over 13 million reads. Laurie lectures at physician groups, marriage and family therapy programs, and the medical schools of UNC Chapel Hill and Duke on sexual function and dysfunction. Laurie encourages women to own their sexual passion and their imperfect but exhilarating bodies and men to understand the physiology and psychology behind female sexuality. awakeningscenter.org
Rooms & Pricing
All options include daily vegetarian meals from dinner on the night of check-in through lunch on the day of checkout. (Rates below are per person.)
Private Hotel Room
The private hotel room features either a king bed or two full beds, a flat screen TV, a refrigerator, a private bath and complimentary wifi.
Shared Hotel Room (2 People)
The shared hotel room features either a king bed or two full beds, a flat screen TV, a refrigerator, private bath and complimentary wifi. One other person of the same gender will share the room with you.
Private Retreat Room
The private retreat room has twin beds, a private bath and complimentary wifi.
Shared Retreat Room (2 People)
The shared retreat room has twin beds, a private bath and complimentary wifi. One other person of the same gender will share the room with you.
Shared Retreat Room (3 People)
The shared retreat room has twin beds, a private bath and complimentary wifi. Up to two more people of the same gender will share the room with you.
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