Restore Passion and Hope
Are you ready to deepen the connection you experience within your intimate relationship? Do you feel that there is more to love—and you want to reach the next level?
Through this very special online program, Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt—creators of Imago Relationship Therapy—will guide you and your partner toward a truly fulfilling partnership full of passion, hope, and connection.
We are born in relationship, we are wounded in relationship, and we can be healed in relationship.
– Harville Hendrix
Harville and Helen are renowned relationship experts who have taught thousands of therapists and couples the tools to create loving, lasting relationships.
In this virtual workshop, you will
- Develop effective and loving communication skills
- Uncover the source of frustrations within your relationship
- Learn a step-by-step process for transforming conflict into connection
- Experience true safety with your partner, and feel genuinely appreciated
- Discover the potential of your relationship as a vessel for passion, healing, and spiritual growth.
This is an incredible opportunity to learn from two of the most respected coaches in the relationship realm; there will be plenty of time for questions and community. You’ll gain skills to nurture and improve your relationship on a daily basis—so that your love can be liberating and free from conflict.
An Art of Living Retreat Center Exclusive
Register now and get access to Harville and Helen’s new video, Imago Match: Why We Choose a Partner Who Fits Our Past. This insightful 30-minute pre-recorded session will be made available to you just prior to the program start date.
This workshop is for couples to attend together.
Instead of treating our partner as we would like to be treated, we need to treat them as they want to be treated.
This is harder than it seems, for at least three reasons. One, we are all pretty self-centered, far more in touch with our own desires than with those of our partner. Two, most of us think other people’s desires are similar, if not identical, to ours (and if they are not, they should be!). Three, we operate out of the erroneous belief that our partner should know exactly what it is that you want.
Discover the potential of your relationship as a vessel for passion, healing, and spiritual growth.
Just because you or your partner asked for a behavior does not mean you have to do it. Some might require a little stretching (good) but other requests might be too challenging (do not do.) But consider all requests and revisit them every so often. You might find what you cannot give now, you can give later as your relationship begins to reap the rewards of unconditional giving and receiving.
When you and your partner have a shared vision it synthesizes separate dreams, desires, values, and needs.
Working together intentionally on a relationship vision turns your energy away from past and present disappointments toward a more hopeful future, the future you want to create This joint creation becomes your conscious dream and your new reality. You may not be able to have the relationship of your private dreams, but you can co-create a new ideal relationship.
Experience a level of emotional safety with each other and open your hearts to a deeper experience of love.
Touch your partners heart and give in ways to help them feel good. Identify behaviors that you currently receive from your partner (current behaviors), behaviors you received in your earlier romantic days together (past behaviors), and behaviors that your partner does not do but, if they did, would make you feel loved or cared about (future behaviors.)
Learn how to talk with your partner so that your conversations will be safe rather than negative.
Imago Dialog uses three basic techniques – mirroring, validating, and empathizing – to fortify the connection between partners. Check to make sure you understand what your partner is saying (mirroring), indicate that what your partner says makes sense, even if you don’t agree (validating) and recognize the partner’s feelings when s/he tells a story or expresses an opinion (empathizing).
Replace all your monologues with dialogue and practice having “safe conversations” until you are perfect. Dialogue will not only improve the way you communicate with your partner, it will improve the relations with your children, and with everyone you come in contact with. Practice dialogue until it becomes a habit and a way of life, until you become dialogical.
Offer gifts with no strings attached. The unconscious receives only unconditional gifts.
Give and receive unconditionally. A tit-for-tat mentality does not sit well with the old brain. Gifts are unconditional. It interprets such behaviors as, “Look out! Price tag attached. There is no reason to feel good about this gift, because I’ll have to pay for it later.” We need to give unconditionally.
Harville Hendrix Ph.D. and Helen LaKelly Hunt Ph.D. are internationally-respected couple’s therapists, educators, speakers, and New York Times bestselling authors. Together, they have written over 10 books with more than 4 million copies sold, including the timeless classic, Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples. In addition, Harville has appeared on the Oprah Winfrey television program 17 times!
However, marriage—even for marriage experts—is never easy. Just like any other couple, Harville and Helen experienced a power struggle where they attempted to change, coerce, and threaten each other to be “more like me.” A critical comment would degenerate into loud arguments. Blaming each other was a common focus of conversation.
Harville and Helen co-created Imago Relationship Therapy to promote the transformation of couples and families by a creating relational culture that support universal equality. In addition, they’ve developed resources that help couples, families, and educators strengthen their relationship knowledge and skills. They are the co-founders of Imago Relationships International, a non-profit organization that has trained over 2,000 therapists and educators in 51 countries around the world.
GETTING THE LOVE YOU WANT
A Mini Online Workshop for Couples
October 23–25, 2020
Subject to change.
Friday 7:30–9:00 pm EST
Saturday 9:30 am–12:00 pm EST and 2:00–4:00 pm EST
Sunday 9:30–11:30 am EST
Online Program FAQs
Retreat Cancellation Policy
Your program is hosted on Zoom. In order to participate, you will need one of the following:
- Computer: Windows or Mac computer with speakers and a microphone. (Note: Webcams are recommended but not required.)
- Mobile Device: iOS or Android
- Phone: mobile, desk or landline.
You can find out more about using Zoom here.
Once you register and reserve your spot, you will receive a confirmation email with detailed instructions on how to access the online sessions. If you have any problems or questions, please feel free to reach us at 800-392-6870.